Wednesday, June 23, 2010


I have written about how even though this is my favorite time of  year, it is also my worst time.  This is the season of picnics and parades and outdoor parties.  We do get invites, but often the work involved to for both of us to attend is just to much.  Setting up one or more sitters for mom so that we can go to a gathering, and not watch the time to rush back home.  It is no fun at all when we have to go by our self, and one stay home, so most of the time, we just don't go anywhere. 

As I thought about this, I went back to my being invisible post, where I had talked about how I had wanted someone to bring me free pancakes at a local spot was offering.  What if family/friends considered bringing a dish or even more then one from a picnic, cookout or party, to a home where they knew a caregiver was, who couldn't get out and enjoy these functions?  Does anyone think about something like that?  I am not just referring to myself and my husband, but any caregiver who cannot go and enjoy these good times in the summer.  Of course this can apply to any holiday or function where food is involved, and these individuals would be there if it was not for their caregiving responsibilities.

The 4th of July is coming up, it will be a quiet and lonely day, watching all the cars driving by going to the parade and then back home to get ready for their picnics and cookouts.  Then at night driving downtown to watch the fireworks.  Some of these things, we pretty much stopped doing long ago when the kids didn't want to anymore.  But to have a choice to do them, that we really don't have anymore.  

It is not just missing out on all the wonderful summer foods, some of which we could fix, but it is certainly not the same, it is that someone thought about us, and they took the time to bless us with some picnic goodies.  It is not being invisible, it is someone caring about us here within these 4 walls. 
Does anyone ever think about what good deed they could do for someone?  Well, here you go...go bless a caregiver with some wonderful summer treats!  Little things mean alot believe me!
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  1. Donna ..... wouldn't it be nice if we were neighbors and we could help one another out in the way of food and sitting for each other...

    I hope you get a surprise meal from a friend or neighbor.

  2. I am sure people think of you Donna and then their life takes over. We are all in such a rush these days and it takes all our time to get though our own stuff.
    Many years ago after my husband had a car crash and I was struggling to keep a business running friends of ours arrived at every mealtime with a big dish of comfort food. They also took away a pile of laundry and brought it back fresh and ironed. They were good friends and in a position where they could help.
    Perhaps you could invite your friends to drop in on 4th July on their way out or on their way home. Have an indoor picnic; play some games and invite them to come back again soon.
    I hope your day goes well and you can do more than look out of the window............

  3. Dolores it would be great to be neighbors with you! There are so many of us and we are so far apart!

    A.C. the subject of friends is a bittersweet one, as I don't really have any around here. My friends are on the internet and in far away places. I have my church family, but my church is 50 miles away, so it is hard to establish close relationships with anyone. So, I look our the window at all the people in their cars, going here and there on the holidays, or I just plant myself right here and try to find some friendly "faces" to talk with!

  4. My mother-in law is staying with us for the next 3 to 6 months while her husband is in rehab after C2 fractures from a fall. It has only been 3 weeks and already we feel trapped. Between being her taxi and feeling chained to to home and hearth, I am dreading Summer.