Friday, April 9, 2010


WELCOME  Spring 






The Bear Hug Waltz  
a journal.....a diary.....a journey.....of caregiving for my mom


 Beautiful in dark green velvet...a corsage of pink roses....
A wedding day, filled with hopes and dreams......

Years have gone by, so many more then expected.....

Hi!  I'm Donna, and the Bear Hug Waltz is a journal of the past four years that I have been a fulltime caregiver for my mom.  She is soon to be 96 and is in the late stages of dementia.  My children are all grown now and I have become a mom once again, but with the responsiblity of parenting or caring for my mother.

The posts I write are often sad, sometimes amusing, always very real, very  honest.  I tell about what life as a caregiver is, for me, and for countless others both male and female.

I hope you will take a few moments to read some of the posts, to see a caregiver's life realities, and gain understanding about what it is like to be a caregiver for a parent.

 Patchwork Mom! 

I Recommend These Recent Posts:

The Hands of Time  3/13/2010

Silent Talking  3/4/2010

Invisible People  2/25/2010

The Person Left Behind in The Shadows  2/21/2010

The Long Goodbye  2/3/2010

Christmas 09

Hope you have enjoyed your visit, please come again!

Be sure to return to 5 Minutes For Mom

and keep on partying!

Tea anyone??

My top 3 prize choices are:

#20 - $50.00 in Cookie Lee jewelry, provided by Kelley Clayton,

#73/#74 -  A $30.00 Amazon gift card, provided by Escalate Network,

#68 - A Scentsy Warmer and 3 wax scents, provided by Mrs. Marine,

Additional prize choices are: 4, 32, 41, 44, 49, 66


  1. Hi Donna, So nice to "see" you again. :) Love the floral background for your site, as well as the ShabbyBlog quotes. Very sweet :)

    I'm so glad you jumped in for the Ultimate Blog Party 2010. I did it last year and loved it and this one looks like it will be just as much fun. It's a great way for those of us in the throes of the Sandwich Generation issues of caring for elderly parents while helping with our grandchildren to get to party on our own schedule. Gotta love that! Much like the Party at earlier this year! :)

    Have fun with the party and know you are in my prayers! :)

  2. Hi there and thank you for stopping by my blog! I can't wait to read more about you.

  3. Hi there! Just popping in from UBP to be your newest Google Follower-Hooray! You have a lovely blog! Hope you can swing by mine! Have a super weekend!

    Bridgette Groschen
    The Groschen Goblins

  4. Wow, you have taken on a big job. Good for you. We hope to do so for our parents if needed as well.

    Just stopped by from the party. Thanks for coming by my blog.

  5. You are an amazing woman and I am sure your mom can see that!

    Great job and god bless!

  6. Happy UBP Party!!!! What a lovely blog you have here!!!! Following you on Google Friend Connect. You can also follow me at

    Love to see you soon....have a great weekend!

  7. I'm so sorry that the topic of our blogs is Alzheimer's..... dealing with this disease is so hard! However, I'm so thankful for blog friends, where we can share our thoughts...

    Keeping you and your mom in my prayers.

  8. Wow. What a blessing you are to your mother. Thank you for being an example. Have a blessed weekend.

  9. Great to learn more about you! Stopping by from the UBP! :D

    Have a great weekend! :D


  10. Hey there stopping by from the UBP! Let me tell you, you are an amazing daughter. Your level of patience must but unlimited! What an amazing person you are!

  11. Hi Again, I spotted your Twitter and came by to say HELLO to you and your mom again. Wrote about y'all today at SandwichINK :) :) :)

  12. Hi Donna, thanks for the link to your blog and for the sweet comment you left on my blog. I'm honored to meet you. Yup, I'm a sandwicher/boomer like you. Recently we had to deal with my beloved MIL's illness and passing (last year) so if there is anything you would like to talk about I'm there (been there). God bless you for taking good care of your mom. I'll bookmark your site as I do want to keep visiting and getting to know you after all the party hoopla is over. God bless and have a great weekend.

  13. I will definitely be back. What you are going through will be what my mom is going to go through in about 10 years or (most likely) less. Her mom is only 67 but acts 80. She does not have dimentia exactly, but is very "out of it" due to medications for a plethora of things. It is so hard on my mom. And since my mom is single I am her closest confidant and it is hard for me to hear.

    God bless you!

  14. What a hard thing to have to go through! Your mom has a treasure in you!

    Saw someone won the Scentsy Warmer! Hope it was you!


  15. Thanks everyone for stopping by. I hope you will come back and visit with mom and I again! I don't know how much more I will do with the blog party. I haven't had the response I had hoped for, and I just have so much time to devote to the pary. But I have found many new blogs and friends, so what I have done thus far has been fun!

  16. Thanks for stopping by my blogs. It's good to meet you! What a sweet blog you have here!

  17. Glad to meet you! The name of your blog is quite intriguing!

  18. I was born and raised in Wisconsin and lived there for nearly 30 years. We just moved to California two years ago. But I sure miss home!

    Just stopping by from the UBP at Five Minutes for Mom. You have a great site. I would love it if you visited my blog and left me a comment! I'm looking forward to reading more and getting to know you better.

    The Healthy Moms

  19. Hi Donna, Hats off to you for the great work you are doing with your mom. Visiting via the UBP. Enjoy the party!

  20. Hi Donna! What a beautiful blog! What a perfect spring picture at the beginning of this post!

    I'm so glad you stopped by my blog during this big Blog Party! Because, it allowed me to meet you and I can tell your blog is one that I will want to return to often.

    Many of the "Mommy's" are young - but I am older and was feeling a bit out of place. But you are going to encourage and teach me - how lovely!

    So nice to meet you. Thank you for sharing your heart and life and for joining the Blog Party!