Wednesday, February 3, 2010

The Long Goodbye




goodbye to sewing
goodbye to tole painting
goodbye to quilting
goodbye to doing laundry
goodbye to driving
goodbye to managing money
goodbye to taking trips
goodbye to shopping
goodbye to baking
goodbye to cleaning house
goodbye to doing dishes
goodbye to sending cards
goodbye to talking on the phone
goodbye to cooking
goodbye to reading and word search puzzles
goodbye to walking alone
goodbye to getting in the tub
goodbye to making it to the bathroom during the night
goodbye to telling time
goodbye to cooking
goodbye to going out
goodbye to remembering some times and places
goodbye to remembering some family and friends
goodbye to bathing
goodbye to using the bathroom, only the potty
goodbye to knowing morning from night
goodbye to eating solids
goodbye to drinking liquids
goodbye to feeding herself
goodbye to using a straw
goodbye to dentures
goodbye to blowing her nose
goodbye to sitting in a chair or on the couch
goodbye to using the potty
goodbye to contolled body eliminations
goodbye to talking
goodbye to my name
goodbye to standing
goodbye to sitting unassisted
goodbye to being up in wheelchair for more then once a day
goodbye to always sleeping at night
goodbye to eating what I determine to be enough for her
goodbye to skin staying strong and intact.

hello mom with the twinkle in your blue eyes......





4 comments:

  1. This is good to remember when I am feeling sorry for myself. I am not the one truly suffering the loss of these things, Mother is. Thank you for posting this.

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  2. Tweeting this now ... I hope MANY caregivers are able to see this, Donna

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  3. Thank you Judy and Sheila, I had the title for this for a couple weeks but didn't know what to write until the morning of Feb 3. It came to me all of a suddent to list all of the things mom has said goodbye to since the dementia began to take over. It was quite sobering and sad and I am sure there are many more things I did not think of at the time too. Thanks Sheila for posting this to twitter.

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  4. Your words are very moving - most true. Thank you visiting my blog today.

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