Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Disappointment the Sequel
Some family members came to visit mom, the visit was somewhat strained and I had to initiate most conversation. These are family members who have not been to see mom in years, except they did stop once when she was napping so didn't actually get to spend time with her.
I don't usually write about the family because I don't want to ruffle feathers, but sometimes you just have to step out and say something. Like I have told people, it isn't just about coming to see mom either, it is about coming to see me and have some interaction with me too. I told my brother one day, when he said mom didn't talk when he would come over and I said, "Yes, but I do!" So, he will sit and visit with me a bit when he comes to drop off her nutritional drinks. But you know, he never asks about me or mom. I have to force feed him facts about myself and my life, or mom's, so is the visit really helpful to me, not usually.
I told my husband after the family left on Sat., "You know, I am better off when no family comes at all, then I don't have to go through the expectation and disappointment." I do have a few people that come by, once or twice a year who do sit and talk with me, and they are very helpful.